Who Gets To Define You

You Were Always Worthy—You Just Weren’t Always Told So

Some messages are so deeply ingrained, we don’t even realise we’ve believed them.

Be good.

Be quiet.

Be small.

Be what’s expected.

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For Dunia, those messages were loud—even when unspoken.

Raised in a war-torn country where girls were taught to sacrifice, not speak up, she absorbed a version of worth that was conditional. Her value was linked to obedience, to self-denial, to doing what she was told.But beneath it all, a quiet defiance lived in her bones. A knowing. A question.

“What if they’re wrong about me?”

What if strength doesn’t mean silence?  What if love doesn’t mean self-erasure?  What if you’re allowed to want something more?

Dunia’s journey—like so many others—isn’t just about healing the past. It’s about unlearning the rules that were never written for her thriving. It’s about looking at the beliefs that shaped her… and choosing which ones to keep, and which ones to lay down for good.

Because the truth is: worthiness isn’t something you earn. It’s something you remember.

You don’t have to prove you’re enough.

You don’t have to make yourself smaller to belong.

You don’t have to suffer to be seen.

You get to rewrite the rules.

You get to define what strength looks like in your life.

You get to reclaim the parts of you that were silenced—not as shameful, but sacred.

Dunia did. And her story is one of powerful, quiet reclamation. She didn’t rage against her upbringing—but she did refuse to carry forward what no longer fit.

And in doing so, she came home to herself.

What About You?

Are there beliefs about your worth you’ve never thought to question?

Are you still measuring yourself by rules you never agreed to?

This is your invitation to pause and reflect—not from judgment, but with deep compassion. To look at the voices that shaped you and ask: Are they still guiding me? Or are they holding me back?

You were always worthy.

You just weren’t always told so.

But you can tell yourself now.

And we’ll remind you, too—until it feels true in your bones.

"Liberation doesn’t always start with a shout. Sometimes it begins with a quiet, unwavering no."

- Casabo